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23 July 2009 4:00 PM
"Worst Idea Ever"
Elsewhere I write about male pickup artists:
The community of men who study picking up women -- let's call them "players" -- are unified by a belief that dating is a "game," and that utility should guide one's approach to it. The results can be harmless enough. An item I once saw in a men's magazine advised that a good first date might involve walking across a suspension bridge, or standing atop the observation deck of a tall building, because what women feel when they experience vertigo mimics the butterflies that accompanies proximity to a man to whom they're genuinely attracted. I imagined some poor guy bringing his date on a long hike to the bridge over the river only to discover that she isn't confused nearly as easily as he was led to believe.
Of course, the belief that one acts amorally by manipulating women quickly leads to abhorrent behavior. The rogue who is zealous for sexual conquest at least understands that he acts badly if he uses deception to get sex. The cerebral "player," exemplified by the author of the blog Elysium Revisited, doesn't grasp that anything is the matter with his behavior.
As a result, he is quite unabashed as he describes a male behavior that I've observed on many occasions, and that I abhor more than any other mainstream pickup technique. Though I'd never heard it referred to as such, Sebastian Flyte dubs it "the Neg," and calls it "the Swiss army knife of pickup."
More here.
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